26. Be there for me!
One of my best friends in college was at my wedding, and she asked me to be in hers. She liked my idea of the bridesmaids picking out their own dress, as long as it was a certain color. The time came for her wedding, and she changed her mind and picked out a dress at a shop, and expected us to buy certain shoes as well as pay for our hair, nails, and makeup (for a full-time employee, full-time student, and mother, this was not easy to pay for).
She had multiple events or parties leading up to the wedding (engagement party, bridal shower, things like that) and was pretty upset if we could not attend every one. Now, I did my best to accommodate her, but another bridesmaid was unable to attend one party, so the bride was talking to me about how she couldn’t rely on her.
In the past, the bride had missed my bridal shower, baby shower, and birthday parties because of family events. How can you miss so much for one person, but get upset because someone can’t make it to one of your many parties?
I’m starting to think being in a wedding can ruin relationships, so maybe it’s just easier to help out but not be in the actual wedding party.