He Won’t Be Walking Me Down the Aisle
My dad cheated on my mom, and they got divorced 11/12 years ago after 21 years of marriage. My mom understandably hated the woman my dad married just five months after their divorce was final (the woman he cheated with). But over the years, my mom has gotten over it, and she tries to be cordial with them. She even gets along with and is fond of my stepsisters.
But my dad just always brushes her off and gives her the cold shoulder every time. If anyone should have this attitude, it should be coming from my mom, but it isn’t. Cut to a few weeks ago, I was talking to my dad about what song we should play for our father-daughter dance. He said “Whatever you want, just pick whatever song you like, and that’s what we’ll dance to. But I do have one request though”.
Thinking it was going to be music-related, I was ready to accept his request. But he looks at me and says something that broke my heart. “I don’t want to take any pictures with your mother”. At the time, my wedding was four weeks away. I was upset, started to cry, and told him that he is my father and she is my mother. I want pictures of me and my parents on my wedding day, even just one.
I said that I would be more than happy to also take pictures with him and my stepmom. He tried to calm me down and said that everything was going to be okay. Today, he texted me and said “call me when you have time to talk, I need to talk to you”. So I called him. He apologized for upsetting me a few weeks back, but that he stands firm in his decision to not take any pictures with my mom.
He said that he wanted to tell me ahead of time, so that it won’t even be brought up at the wedding. I am so upset and angry that he can’t be cordial with my mom for five minutes to take a picture. So I decided to call my brother and I asked him to walk me down the aisle. Because at this point, I’m over my dad and how he’s acting about everything.
I feel like he’s lost his right to walk me down the aisle.