Lose-Lose Situation
After three years, lots of plans and living together for two, my ex told me that he would like to begin transitioning into a woman.
The part that makes this the worst break up is not that she is now living happily as a woman, it is that after telling me of her identity I said calmly and cooly, “I love you, I respect you and I wish you the best in becoming who you are. I cannot continue to be in a relationship with you as I am not attracted to women.”
Long story story short, she went ballistic.
Apparently I should have known. She assumed that I was bisexual. She called me transphobic, threw things, called me every derogatory name she could think of before leaving.
She emailed me for years calling me out for being awful for not wanting to continue a relationship with her.
She is completely unwilling to understand that just like her, my gender identity and sexual orientation is sort of set in stone. It is how I was born.
Basically she made me feel like a horrible person and told all of our friends what a horrible person I was because as a heterosexual woman I am not interested in a lesbian relationship.