The Asian Parents
“I gave up everything I liked for you.”
“95? Why not 100?”
“Why can’t you be like so and so’s child? They do <one impressive thing>.”
It is a bit subtler than the top comments here but can eat a child’s self-worth, guilt them well into adulthood, and pass by standard alarms.
Yes, you guessed right – Asian parents. I blame but don’t hate them. It’s a struggle when your default behavior is not to think you have worth when achieving something as for “some reason” there’s always more you could’ve done and what I just finished “isn’t actually that impressive” in my mind. It is and will be, a battle to unlearn, and I wish all those who share this experience the best in their journey of unlearning and self-accepting.