It Takes Four
I’m in love with the wife of one of my best friends. Everyone knows I have/had a crush on her but it’s more than that in my head, and it’s been more than that for years. I met her the exact same day he met her when they were set up for a blind date, which was over a decade ago. He’s a great person and they’re happily married now.
I wouldn’t get in the way of their relationship. But there’s something even worse. Another kicker is I’m married too and love my wife to pieces. It’s hard to comprehend when growing up in a monogamous culture, which I think adds to my turmoil. I would never get in the way of their relationship or my relationship with my wife.
Instead I aim to be a good friend to the both of them, and not just because I love her, but because I respect him as a friend as well.