Hurt People Hurt People
I had an adult client who was talking about an 11-year-old girl she knew. She said the girl had told her she was being abused by an older man. Most people would help that poor girl, but not my client. She went on and on about how the girl was flirting with the man. She said she was totally asking for it.
She never acknowledged that this girl is 11 years old. She can’t consent to that stuff, never mind initiate it! Sadly, the client had grown up in a dysfunctional environment and also experienced inappropriate behavior.
She seemed to have internalized the idea that if young women are “promiscuous” then they deserve whatever they get. I tried challenging her multiple times, but it was part of a much bigger and more awful intractable framework. Story credit: Reddit / pm_me_your_daschunds