That’s Just, Like, Your Opinion, Man
My younger sister started dating one of those “brutally honest” guys a few months ago. He can be quite rude and make backhanded comments about me and the family sometimes, which is bothersome. My sister says he’s not malicious but is just the brutally honest kind and we should get used to it. Recently, I visited my parents’ house to celebrate my sister’s birthday.
My husband couldn’t come with me because he was busy. After the party, we all sat down for dinner and my sister’s boyfriend said it was weird that my husband and I don’t have kids despite being married for six years now. I was shocked that he brought this up but I gave a short answer, stating that it’s because of infertility issues. It got so much more painful.
He asked on which side. I didn’t want to answer, but my sister said it’s on my side. I got uncomfortable as he looked at me for a second and said that maybe not having kids now is a good thing because he thought women over 30 (which I am) might “produce” defective babies due to their age. I told him it was none of his business but he said that he was just giving his “honest opinion” and that’s all.
I, in return, told him while maintaining eye contact: “Trust me, if I wanted a jerk’s opinion, I would’ve farted!” Literally everyone at the table burst into laughter and my sister and her boyfriend were stunned. A few seconds later, her boyfriend excused himself and my sister followed. She then sent me a text after they left saying I was mean and disrespectful towards her boyfriend and insulted him maliciously just because he stated his honest opinion.
She also said I ruined her birthday by being petty and making her boyfriend the joke of the night in front of the family. I didn’t respond but she demanded an apology via mail as soon as possible. Our mom agreed that I shouldn’t have said what I said and should’ve just ignored him knowing how he is.