A Stunning Conclusion
My husband and I met when my oldest daughter was almost two, and they have had an amazing bond ever since they first met. My oldest daughter has always referred to my husband as her dad. She only asked once when she was younger who her dad was, and when she got an answer she didn’t ask anymore. Her 10th birthday is in two weeks. My husband came to me and asked about getting adoption papers as a present, and I have agreed that it should be done.
My husband went over to his parents’ house recently and since he’s been a little excited about the decision, he told them. While my father-in-law is happy about it, my mother-in-law is not. She has never actually called my oldest daughter her granddaughter. She only sees her as my daughter from a previous relationship, which I know upsets my daughter. My husband has always told her off in the past, and for a good period of time, she will treat her like a grandkid but won’t call her one.
My husband and I haven’t cut her off yet because of the fact she doesn’t refer to her as a grandkid. She still is treated like a part of the family. When my husband left his parents’ house was when mother-in-law started texting me about how my daughter wasn’t blood-related and my husband adopting her wasn’t an option. When I asked her why, all she said was, “She has a dad. Make him step up to the plate and do his job, my son shouldn’t have to do it for him.” I even tried to tell her that her son was my daughter’s father and she just dismissed what I said.
Over the next few days, she complained to anyone and everyone about it and people were calling me to say how amazing or cute the idea was. Nobody seems to agree with her, which set her off even more. She then started calling my daughter an unwanted child. That broke me and I ended up in tears. My husband walked in on me crying and consoled me while I told him everything. He eventually went to lock himself in his office before calling to yell at his mom.
I know that conversation didn’t go well and she’s been texting me ever since, calling me all sorts of names and telling me I’m a witch for starting drama about something that should not be happening at all. I completely ignored her and told my husband every time she sent me a text. My husband had gotten his dad involved, and even though both of them were now trying to talk some sense into this woman, she wasn’t listening, My husband spent a week every night coming home from work on the phone to his dad about the situation.
On Saturday, my sister-in-law had her birthday and we were supposed to go over to her house for lunch. At the last minute on Friday, my husband was asked to fill in for someone on a business trip. He agreed, but not before asking his brother and his wife to have my back if any drama went down with the mother-in-law. The birthday lunch comes around, and my mother-in-law ignored me and my oldest daughter while my father-in-law had a few conversations with us.
An hour or so later, it all unraveled. I’m standing there talking to my brother-in-law and his wife about the adoption papers when my mother-in-law walked over and said, “No, stop it, that will not be discussed here.” She full-on got up in my face and demanded to know why I thought everything was about the adoption papers. When I told her that I had been asked, she abruptly stopped me from speaking to rant more about how it wasn’t going to happen and how nobody should have to put an unwanted child under their name.
Even though I pretty much was about to cry again, I straight-up looked her in the eye and said, “Whether you like it or not, your son wants to do it. You will not step in between just because you don’t like something.” That’s when she went over the brink. She slapped me. Everyone was surprised for a minute until she started shouting at me again and people had to drag her away from me. All the poor kids were crying over watching what happened, and my oldest daughter was pretty much clutched to my sister-in-law.
Even though my father-in-law ended up taking my mother-in-law home after what happened, I took my kids and left not long after. I sat on the couch at home with my oldest daughter, holding her while she cried for an hour about what she heard. I managed to speak to my husband after I had put all kids to bed, and he is livid. He has left a bunch of messages for his mom but she doesn’t respond.
My father-in-law called earlier this morning to offer an apology for what had happened and I’ve told him this is not his fault, but I think it’ll be affecting him for a while. I will also be looking into some counseling for my daughter. She has been a little bit attached to me since then, so I know she is taking this hard. Story credit: Reddit / ThrowRADisastrous