A Change of Wardrobe
My boyfriend and I have been together for three months. My sleepwear consists entirely of tank tops and underwear. I have underwear for during the day and for dates, which is primarily small and lacy, and then I’ve got women’s briefs and men’s boxers (usually a cotton blend) for sleeping.
They’re really comfy and really big. I don’t think they’re ugly, they’re just not very cute. Well, my boyfriend slept over last night and I went to get dressed for bed. As I pull out the briefs he goes “Do you have to wear those?” so I pull out the boxers.
He says that’s worse, and asks if I can wear some of my “nice” underwear to bed. I tell him that wearing lace all day and then overnight and again the following day is how you get yeast infections.
That just grossed him out. So I put them on and go to get into bed, and he asks me to take them off, not for intimacy, but just so I’m not wearing boxers to bed. I ask him what the big deal is anyway, and his reply made me so angry.
“Forgive me for wanting to find you attractive.” I don’t know what to say to that but he rolls over, straight to sleep, no cuddling.
This morning I wake him, we kiss, I’m thinking it’ll lead somewhere, but he touches my boxers, stops, gets dressed, and leaves.
This is starting to affect my self-esteem just a bit. I’m only wearing them because they’re comfortable and I don’t want to buy all new stuff, but this is apparently a real turn off for him and it’s causing problems. Oh, but it gets worse.
I texted him finally and straight-up asked what the issue was again. He thinks it’s “gay.” As a someone who is bi, I cannot see an alternative to breaking up with him right now.