Think Before You Speak
This whole saga started because my husband took my last name. A couple of weeks ago, he got his workplace to change it, and his co-workers found out. About half of them think this is the funniest thing ever and about half are deeply offended.
This one woman, Brenda, is in the offended half, and has made that clear. He and I are in a group chat with his co-workers where we organize carpooling. It is very helpful to us, so we can’t leave the chat.
Since he changed his name, my husband and I have been dealing with a lot of dumb jokes in the chat, which we have been mostly ignoring. Yesterday Brenda and I got into a bit of a spat.
I messaged the group asking if someone could take my husband home since I wouldn’t be back from work until late and needed the car. One of his other co-workers agreed, and I thought that was that.
Brenda messages the group saying, “Maybe if you spent less time at work and more time being a wife, your husband wouldn’t come into work with dirty shirts.” I took this as a bad joke initially. My husband is a rural mail carrier, so his shirts look like shirts worn by someone in 90-degree heat on dusty roads.
I do wash them, but there’s only so much to be done. Me: I could make cleaning those shirts my full-time job and it wouldn’t do much. Brenda: You won’t be married very long if you keep trying to be the man in the relationship. I’d be embarrassed as a wife if I did so little for my husband.
Me: Well I work more hours and pay the bills, so I think he can Oxy-Clean his own shirts if it’s so important. Brenda: Maybe you should learn to take proper care of your husband or you’ll find yourself divorced.
Me: I’ll let you know when I need relationship advice from someone who is 42 and single. Now apparently Brenda is going around and saying that I “mocked her for being single in her 40s.”
I don’t care if someone is single in their 40s, but I think it’s absolute idiocy that she can call me a bad wife but I can’t point out she has no frame of reference. Story credit: Reddit / CourageClassic6141