Used and Excused
This happened just a few hours ago. I am a 19-year-old man. On Thursday, a person I had a major crush on in high school (but who rejected me) messaged me out of the blue.
She had never contacted me without my contacting her first, and at one point I realized she had had me blocked on social media, so I found it odd that she was suddenly being friendly.
After sending a couple of greetings/questions about how I’ve been, she said that she was going to have some people over and wanted to know if I would get the drinks. The drinking age where we are is 19, and she and the people who were going to chill were all 18.
I thought it was silly that my being a month older meant I could buy drinks and they couldn’t, so I said I would love to go. She said, “Thanks, I’ll pick you up at seven!” 7 o’clock rolled around and she texted me to say she was in front of my house.
I went out dressed and ready to chill with some people, and she drove me to the store. When we got there, I asked what she wanted me to get, and she told me to get Budweiser. I hid my disappointment as well as I could, but it was her party so I went in and bought two cases of 24.
I got back in the car and said, “Let’s party.” She went eerily quiet. I noticed that she wasn’t driving towards her neighborhood, but rather back towards mine. I thought she had moved or something, but didn’t want to press the issue. When she turned down my street I finally figured it out.
She was being purposefully vague about the invitation because she wanted me to get the drinks but she wanted a way out when she told me I wasn’t actually invited in the first place.
She stopped in front of my house, leaned over, kissed me on the cheek, and said “Thanks!” in her best voice. I asked when she was going to tell me I wasn’t invited. She feigned surprise and said that she never intended to invite me in the first place. I sat in silence for a long awkward minute.
Then I did the only thing I could to regain power. I picked up the drinks and walked towards my front door. She got out of her car and frantically tried to re-invite me to the party, but I told her that what she did was the most humiliating thing that has ever happened to me.
I opened my front door, slammed it a bit too hard, and went back to my room. Now I have text messages from all of her friends and her asking me why I’m being such a jerk.
I don’t think I’m a jerk for reacting the way I did, but if you haven’t figured it out, I’m not amazing socially…so I’m not sure. Story credit: Reddit / irrationaloffer