Show Me The Money
My aunt and uncle are paying for my cousin’s college. My dad had a college fund for me, but he had stipulations, like he wanted nothing below a B for grades and to pre-approve any classes I take, weekly meetings to discuss grades, and a bunch of other stuff. Which would be fine if you have a normal dad. Mine isn’t. My father is secretly a nightmare.
My dad has a temper, and I spent 6th-12th grade stressed out about grades and being screamed at or grounded over things that sometimes weren’t even my fault, like a teacher not updating online grading and an assignment being marked “missing” because of it. I also dealt with getting my backpack and locker randomly searched by him for no reason besides “to make sure I’m not hiding anything .”
So I decided to pay for school myself. I didn’t feel like constantly worrying that he’d disapprove of a class or a grade and decide not to pay, which I could totally see him doing. I’d rather be in debt than have him control me for four more years. I just finished my first year. My family got together recently and, well, sometimes they’re nosy. They were talking about my cousin’s school.
My uncle looked at my dad and said, “Well how much is school costing you?” My reply was perfect. I said, “What are you asking him for? I’m the one paying for it.” Later on my dad was ticked off and said that it was out of line to say that and that I embarrassed him. I didn’t do it to embarrass him, I was just being honest. He doesn’t even know how much tuition is, so he was the wrong person to ask.