35. I Guess She Took It Personally
One of my oldest friends was always a really self-centered, dramatic person. Hanging out was always about her and her life and her stuff. Everything always had to be about her. She always had to be the center of attention. I’m a pretty passive person so I just accepted it – to know “A” is to live in the “A Show.” The line was drawn for me though when I was getting married.
I had moved out of the country at this point, but we stayed in touch and stayed friends. I came home to collect my wedding dress about 4 months before my wedding. Unfortunately, I was only home for a few days and time was really tight, so I only had one chance to get together with her. I got really sick and had to cancel at the last minute, and she got so upset that I “blew her off” that we have literally never spoken since.
She never RSVP’ed to my wedding or said she wasn’t going. My oldest friend blew off the biggest event in my life because she felt that I slighted her (and I honestly think she couldn’t handle that, for once, it was about me for a moment). That was five years ago and it hurt me so badly that I’ve never been able to put it aside and reach out to her. I had always defended her and downplayed her selfishness, but this really showed me that she was actually a lousy person. Maybe I am too for not being a bigger person and contacting her.