26. I Don’t Expect Gifts
For my birthday three years ago, I kept my celebration low key because I had my first marathon that weekend. So my friends and I went to a designer bag bingo. She not only got me gifts, which was nice and very thoughtful, but she also posted a photo of us on Facebook with a very meaningful caption.
She immediately asked me if I saw it and even though I had, I hadn’t read it yet (I won’t read birthday posts until the end of the day). Then she tells me, “Well, you didn’t even say anything about it so I’m gonna delete it.” I asked her to please not do that and that I’d officially thank her later. Nope. It was too late. Gone.
She confronted me about her always buying me gifts while I don’t reciprocate. I just told her “I never ask you to.” So she calls me out for getting gifts for another friend of mine. I explained how it was a personal thing with my other friend and I don’t do it with everyone. She then went on about how she did it to show me how much of a good “friend” she is and to stand out.
As an adult, I don’t except gifts from friends on my birthday or Christmas. When it comes to my birthday and I invite you out, all I care for is your presence, not your “present.” Just buy my next drink if we’re celebrating at the bar/club.