9. Plans Were Made
The person I considered my best friend moved to another town for the last year of middle school. It was only ten minutes away by train, but we saw each other a total number of twice after that. Plans were made but dropped at the last minute (often by not saying anything about it at all until I asked what time we were going to meet etc.).
The last straw was when we had made plans for me to come over. My friend had something to do that day and we could only squeeze in some time fairly early, so I got up in the morning, got myself on the train and then texted that I’d be at the station in five minutes. I got a reply that said something like, “It seemed like you didn’t really want to meet up, so I’ve made plans with someone else.”
I have no idea what I’d said or done that gave off the impression I didn’t want to meet. We had planned to meet, and if I want to cancel plans I actually say so rather than just ignoring the topic altogether and then not showing up. So sitting there on the train feeling a bit foolish, I decided that was it. I didn’t even reply to that text, I stopped reaching out to that person, and to my complete lack of surprise I wasn’t reached out to in return.