61. OVER THE HILL
My ex-wife and I went up to Big Bear to go snowboarding and spend some time together. We were having issues and I thought to be fun to get away and do something fun together.
Let’s just say it did not go well. She said she grew up snowboarding, but she never made it down a hill and had a terrible time.
So we went back to the cabin and she was pretty much just on her phone, not talking to me.
We make it back and she says she needs to just shower and be alone for a bit. She goes off and I just hang in the den.
She left her phone in her purse and it just kept buzzing, so I checked it out because what if someone was trying to reach us or something?
I open it up to read a full conversation between her and this guy. It wasn’t good.
I read how that day’s texts started and they started really early in the morning. “Hope you’re doing ok up there.” “We’ll see, doubt it.
He’s trying too hard. He should just know it really doesn’t matter. Wish I was up here with you instead.” Just the worst stuff. And that was before I even woke up.
I was pretty devastated and really didn’t know what to do.
I knew I didn’t want to fight because I realized she wasn’t worth fighting for. Grabbed my bag and drove back to San Diego. I took her phone with me, so I could text him and tell him “We’re coming home early, let’s meet.” I ended up inviting him to a coffee shop and waited for him to show up.
When he walked through the door, he saw me immediately and kind of stopped.
I waved him over and wasn’t too far from the door, so I told him we need to talk. He comes over and already front loads with the “It’s not what you think,” blah blah blah speech.
I told him that if he wants her, he can take his sorry butt to Big Bear and go get her. Because I was leaving and we’re through.
See you when we sign the papers. And I left.
Second worst day of my life but I’m glad it happened. Met my lady three years later and we’ve been together for four years, now engaged.