He Abandoned Me When I Needed Him
It happened to me. I was left at the altar. We still stayed together, though, only to have him abandon me at the hospital a little over a year and a half later.
We were together for six years at that point and engaged for four. There were no signs that it was going to happen. The whole wedding was both of us and our friends making it.
We’d get together on Sundays for BBQ and planning. He was so excited. He’d talk about how awesome it was going to be to have a small ceremony then a picnic and a big bonfire.
How we didn’t need any of that other stuff since our love was real. After an hour of waiting for him to show up on the day, it was obvious. He called me and said he just couldn’t do it.
I stood before everyone and explained that he got cold feet but we can still have the picnic! Which we did. I walked around in my wedding dress joking about his cold feet.
After all, after six years I knew him well. The weirdest thing? We never brought it up. Like ever. He was watching TV when I got back from our wedding like nothing was unusual.
He moved out a week later, but two months later asked to come back. I let him. Life continued. A year and a half later, I got in a bad car wreck. I was in a coma for a bit.
He came to visit, but as soon as I was up and starting the first rounds of surgery (spinal issues), he hit me with the most brutal remark.
He told me he just didn’t love me enough to go through with being there for me. Sad thing is, I acted the same way I did when he left me at the altar. He left me in the hospital just like at the altar.
It was almost eight years I was with him at that point. Our families were close. I honestly thought we’d come together again. Never did. I healed and grew emotionally.
It’s so hard when half of you is missing and we had grown so much into one another. I took classes. Learned to kayak. Cried. Got new friends. Went dancing. Dated.
I found my husband two years after the other abandoned me. I learned that having history with someone and feeling familiar and safe isn’t always enough.
I have never had more fun with anyone like I do with my current husband. We live an adventurous and happy life. YakCat